Modest is Most!

Sadly, modesty is a lost art. I say art because when people use the word "modest" or "modesty" it is usually with rolled eyes...believing that this word defines: frumpy sweats or always wearing long dresses (although I would LIVE in dresses forever...I love them) and baggy clothing. It is not. It is being feminine (not sleezy), neat and tidy (not sloppy and made up with an inch of make up), beautiful and sweet (not seductive and provocative). Or...because we desire the label "modesty", it does sound good (especially to the Christian woman), we define the term according to our standards.  There are a LOT of very immodest "modest" women and young ladies walking around in our culture.  I used to be one of them, so I know exactly what I am talking about!

I have heard so many times "we can't control the boys looking at us" BUT we can sure do our part NOT to be a stumbling block. Protect those boys, protect their women, protect ourselves and save our goodies for the MAIN SQUEEZE (our hubby)!! Like I said...Modesty is an art.

I love clothes and fashion, hair and makeup just as much as the next lady, BUT I do believe that as a woman, it is our responsibility to be wise and modest.  For our husband, for ourselves, for men, for men's wives, for our daughters and because God REQUIRES it.

Here is a little clip from:
~Stacy McDonald (Raising Maidens of Virtue)
'You know the old saying "birds of a feather flock together?" Well, it's true! We are surrounded by a culture that glorifies self, vulgarity, sloppiness, and perversion.
Though we are surrounded by this culture, we don't have to be immersed in it. We are not "of the same feather," so we shouldn't look as though we "flock together."
At the very least, we can certainly make sure we have enough feathers to cover ourselves.'

As usual, I am always learning from Gabrielle, when she became a young lady,  I realized that , although I felt I was a modest woman, I wore things that I would not allow my daughter to wear.  She is the most modest young woman I know and by modest, I mean by definition of purity!!  I had to question my motive behind my clothing and also question what others would see when they saw me...the inside and the outside.  So... once again from Gabby's blog:  Passion for Purity

I just wanted to put out there that this is NOT just for girls, young men that would like to read this are encouraged to!  I refer to young women because I am one ;)

I want to ask you, what is the difference between Virginity and Purity? 

Virginity:  The condition of being untouched.

Purity: The condition of being pure; freedom from anything that debases, contaminates, pollutes, ect.

You see, Virginity refers to the body, while Purity refers to the heart.

My mom always refers to Proverbs 31:12 when we are discussing this. 

"She does him good and not harm ALL the days of her life."

Here is a short version of her Testimony:

"My mom taught me about abstinence. She and my stepdad presented me with a promise ring and I learned about what it meant to protect my body until my wedding day.  I wasn't allowed to date, although, I went on many dates and a few boys were allowed to call...and I went to quite a few proms.  I enjoyed boys.  ;)

I did not really experience any guilt when I flirted or was the recipient of affection.  I kissed and held hands with a clear conscience because I never let it "cross the line."

What line?

My wedding night was a beautiful thing.  I wore white walking down the aisle with pride.  I had saved my body for my husband.

I simply had not saved my heart.

I gave pieces of that away with every kiss...every time I held a hand, every sweet nothing whispered in my ear had left a mark.  An imprint on my heart.

It gave me a measuring stick with which to compare my husband.

It was a long road back to God's measuring stick...the bible.

ALL THE DAYS OF HER LIFE.

I had not done Phil good all the days of my life."

In this day and age virginity is keeping the "body" pure...  Did you see the quote on quote "body"?  I put that there because we are not even keeping the body pure, we are just keeping SOME of the body pure.

Young women, in bible times, wore veils to cover their faces...  They wore veils to protect future husbands (not even  just THEIR OWN future husbands) from lusting after them.  They were not only protecting themselves...they were protecting others.

Girls, what are we wearing?  Don't stop there, what are your motives behind what you wear?  What are you encouraging?  Are your protecting not only your body (saving it ALL for your future husband) but protecting someone else's future husband from lusting after someone other than their future wife?

Purity.

Boys...this is for you as well.

Where are your eyes?  What are your thoughts? 

Are we repenting for our lust.

Yes, let's call it what it is.

LUST

"But I say to you that anyone who looks on a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery in his heart."  Matt. 5:28

"But put to death, therefore, what is earthly in you, sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness which is idolatry." Col. 3:5

"So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace.  Along with those who call on the name of the Lord with a pure heart."  2 Tim. 2:22

The culture knows that we are a lustful, worldly generation.  There are no lines outside of God's word.  Anything goes.  We see it on TV, Billboards, Music, Books, and the way everyone dresses.  They lure us in, grey our boundaries and if we are not rooted in God's word as absolute truth, then we are fools.  Easy prey and open targets.

Our hearts...our purity, GONE.

I saw one young friend post "I am a belieBER" referring to Justin Beiber (a lovely photo to go with it) and thought, this is it.  The line is crossed.  We have been so desensitized that we can drool and lust after a guy like this and it's OKAY.  Everyone is doing it!!

That is just one example...boys, I won't even go into who is out there for you all to lust after.  You all get my point.

I am so glad that my parents made an effort to build a foundation based upon God's word!  At the age of nine, I made the decision to save my body, my first kiss, and my first date for my future husband.  I have taken Proverbs 31:12 to heart and am trying to do my husband good ALL the days of my life.

I bet you are wondering why I said my first date.  I chose not to date because of what temptations come with dating.  One motto I love using is "If you want to stay away from something, stay away from it altogether."  So I will be saving every SINGLE thing that is meant for marriage, for marriage.  Some may think I am crazy, because everyone needs to find their spouse.  But I trust that God has already picked out the perfect spouse, in which He can do His will in my life.  And I also trust that He will let me know who He has planned for my life.

This does not mean that I am ignorant to the fact that we need to know who we marry.  I realize that I will be spending the rest of life with my future husband, but I believe that when God has revealed His will in a spouse, that myself, along with my family will pray and get to know this man TOGETHER! 

"Courting"...but that is a whole separate blog post!! 

"Dating with no intent to marry is like going to the grocery store with no money.  You either leave unhappy or take something that isn't yours."

-Jefferson Bethke

I want to tell you that it is never to early or to late to make the decision to stay pure.  The bible says:

"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.  The old has passed away: behold, the new has come." -2 Corinthians 5:17

If you are wanting a clean slate...if this decision is coming later rather than sooner,

You must repent...and if you don't feel the need to repent, PRAY.  Ask God to grant you repentance.

"Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth." 2 Timothy 2:25

I am not saying that my way is the right way...I am saying that you need to seek God in His word, He draws a very clear line when it comes to purity.

When God brings you to a place of a heart longing after purity...shout it from the mountain tops!!

Because what I have just done in this posting is to open myself up to a world of accountability.

We are in this together.

A couple book references:
I kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris (Brother to Do Hard Things authors)
Before I Meet Prince Charming by Sarah Malley
Princess and the Kiss
Squire and the Scroll
And I am now reading Growing Up Duggar and it is all about relationships

God bless your journey,
Rossie and Gabrielle
Gypsies for Jesus

You can visit Gabrielle's blog: The Life of A Teenage Unschooler
and our family blog at: Treasured Heirlooms 

YOU'RE WELCOME...

Like I say, "Homeschoolers are cool!".  LOL

Love,

Gabrielle

What exactly is unschooling?

It's 10PM...do you know where your children are?

Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:4-9

"You unschool, so is that like, you don't do school?" 
The biblical definition for education is that it is not separate from life.

Education is a way of life for the family.

THIS is why we unschool or lifeschool as we like to call it.  Yes we use textbooks, the kids read (sometimes all day), heck, we even do Algebra!!  However,
we are not limited to a 8am-3pm day in a classroom and our motivation is not for an A+...rather, we are allowed the freedom to learn through sight, smell, touch and action as well and KNOWLEDGE is our motivation!
Gabrielle loves to quote Jordan Taylor,
"You spend 8 hours a day at a specific classroom at a specific time and I'M the one who has no life?"
When I first began homeschooling, we created a classroom...and where I think this can be fun, our desire is to make the world our classroom!!  We no longer try to make a specific structure nor the classroom feel to our day.  We are able to go where the Lord leads!!  
Gypsy style.  ;)

We don't just learn about cars, we work on them.  We don't just study plants, we grow them, visit them, photograph and smell them.  We don't see pictures of animals and their habitats...we seek out every opportunity to enter their world. 

 My sister, Katy, and Gabrielle found an owl dying on the side of the road and Gabrielle was able to doctor it up.  We spent the day studying this beautiful creature!

 I am married to a mechanic and don't know how to change a tire.  A couple days ago...we all learned how to change a tire on the gypsy bus!!

 We share farm with my sister and the kids are always experiencing something there.  This day was the day to sheer sheep!!

 We try to do Nature studies often and they are always fun and very easy.  You draw what you see, describe what you smell, trace leaves, define clouds, pick a scripture verse and search for animals.  We now have binoculars with us wherever we go...just in case! 
A sweet friend recently gave us a fabulous idea!!  We are photographing every flower we see and are categorizing and doing a spreadsheet with photos and facts on each flower!

 Many times, we want to do things ourselves...maybe it's easier or we think the kids aren't old enough.  I didn't even touch this kitty, who was having issues with birthing.  Gabrielle and Isabelle handled it like bosses!!

 The beauty of living in Montana is that we get to experience things that most never will.  Cattle drives and brandings are wonderful times to learn and fascinating to be a part of.  We do not take any opportunity for granted!

Gabrielle, right this very moment is at an arena with a man who performs pressure point and acupuncture medicine on horses.  She is able to ask questions and participate....last week she helped flush embryos and AI (artificially inseminate) recipient mares!!  She wants to be a vet, specializing in horses and because of our unschooling lifestyle, we are able to gear her education towards her field.  She is now prep testing and clep testing for college courses at 14!
I often times hear her explain, "I am able to do what I love right now and it is preparing me for what I want to do in the future.  I pray that God provides a family...I want to be a wife and a mom, but until then, it's horses.  And even then, this field is something that my family can be a part of."

Abraham, 13, wants to be a professional hunter or hunting guide and we are able to cater to his field as well.  Living in Montana has provided the perfect opportunities to learn alongside him...especially with his dad, which is priceless.  He has been able to spend countless hours with dear friends who have a fabulous hunting show "Shoot Straight with Chad Schearer"!!  He is living and breathing hunting as we speak!

Today, the kids built a rocket at the Schearer Ranch, and I love to say that "Unschooling is not rocket science!"...today, however, Aerospace Engineering was exactly what they were learning!!

Our main goal in our family when it comes to education, and probably the one we get the most negative response to, is to train them up in fear and love of the Lord.

God's word is the focus of our education.  Everything we learn, we try to tie into scripture...as we study the stars, we study how God made them.  As we walk and run, feeling our hearts pounding, we study the human body and all the detail that went into God's design.  We even study evolution, knowing that our kids need to know the oppositions to God's word, and then study all the creatures that defy evolution!  

Some days...it is enough to simply dig in the word together.

There are many days that have passed us by and God has not been at the heart and we are convicted.

We built this cross for our yard during our Resurrection study...you will often times find the kids out there studying or like here, spending special time praying.

It should be our main goal...it is a command.

To train up our children according to their "bent" (the way God designed them to learn) so that education saturates their life.  They love to learn...and if they do not, we teach them to love to learn.

If we lose their hearts in effort to have a perfect day or a perfect score, then we have failed our children.

My dear friend, Bridget (she blogs at Don't Blink), said it perfectly when she said, 

"You only have to be one day smarter than your kids. Always keep an eternal perspective! Remember they grow up fast, it's a season you will miss someday! Capture their hearts ❤ have fun!  It's not about knowing facts and keeping up with the worlds standards on education, it's disciplining them up in the ways of The Lord and teaching them to defend the faith. That takes time. There are no school hours, it's a way of life. Don't try and model the classroom. As we saw last night on the #creationdebate the enemy is out to get your children and your family. The schools have an agenda. "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction" Prov 1:7 We are commanded by God as parents to teach our children the things of God “when they lie down, when they rise up, when the walk by the way” Deuteronomy 6 When God gives us a job to do I’m not comfortable delegating it to someone else. When you're obedient to Gods word, He will give you strength and equip you with all you need. It's hard, but it's so worth it! I suspect The Lord may have told us as parents to be the ones to teach our children, because one thing you can’t delegate is learning. It's not just for our kids! Parents learn a great deal through the process of teaching. The Lord used "homeschooling" to draw my husband and I to him. We, the parents, more faithfully remember the Lordship of Christ as we more faithfully teach the same to our children. Oh, how we learn about God's true sacrificial love through the process. True Love, love that has meaning behind it. Be encouraged today as you train your children."

The best gift we can offer our children is to get to know them, study them, see what makes them tick, learn the gifts God has given them and apply that knowledge to the way we train them.  To see our children fall in love with the Lord and crave knowledge and wisdom, seeking God in His Word...THIS is the greatest gift we will receive as parents. 
"I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth." 3 John 1:4

 The second comment we get from others about the way we educate is more a statement than a question,
"You can't always shelter your children."
To which Gabrielle would once again quote, 
"If being protected from sex, drugs and alcohol means I am sheltered, then YES, I am sheltered."


It's 10PM...have you prayed with your children yet?

With Love,

Rossie and Gabrielle
Gypsies for Jesus

Esther...a biblical gypsy.

Gypsy has become an urban term for wanderer, without a home, free as the wind...and for our family, it has become the term we use to describe our desire to go where the Lord leads.  Available, ready and even unprepared as we are most times....moving forward in faith.
Modern day gypsies.
Gabrielle and I decided we would join forces and share our lessons (the good and the bad), scripture studies, logistics in family, purity, domestic skills (the ones we know and the ones we are STILL trying to figure out), anything and everything, a little of this and a little of that...true to gypsy style.
Knowing and remembering that we are nothing without God, the saving work of Jesus on the cross and His Spirit dwelling in us, all we do and everything we share is by God's grace alone.  He gets all the glory.
And because we are so absolutely thankful for the men and women who have encouraged, inspired and challenged us in our walk...we would LOVE your participation.  We will be asking for you fabulous bloggers (some that have yet to succumb to the blogging realm...others have taken a MUCH too long break) to guest write and share your wisdom here.  If you have something you would be willing to add, please contact one of us at 
mylifeinthecircus@gmail.com

And with that, I would love to share from Gabrielle's blog thelifeofateenageunschooler.blogspot.com

Esther
 Have you ever wanted to be somebody you're not?  I have.  When I was six I wanted to be a horse....  I know that sounds crazy, but that is what I wanted to be!   I would stare out the window of our car and dream of running through fields like the horses.  Carefree and with abandon.

More recently, I have wanted to be Esther, I mean who wouldn't want to be Esther?  Her story is amazing,  I love how she was so strong in her faith.  She was solid.  Unwavering.   She would do anything for God no matter how difficult it seemed.  Even risking her life.  
Forced to leave her home, she embraced the journey God was leading her in. She did not pout, she did not retreat.

After many years of striving to be someone I was not, I realized that God didn't want me to be...had not created me to be the Esther of the bible.  

Still trying to process that one ;P....  

God has created each of us for our own "such a time as this".

Now that I can see that God has a different purpose for my life, I have decided to be a modern day Esther.  A girl who will help and encourage others through scripture, a girl who will praise and tell the world about her God without being ashamed.  A girl who will give glory to God through EVERYTHING and with everything.  A girl who will stand firm in her faith no matter how much the earthly consequences may hurt or how lonely the path may be. A girl that will change the world for good, and a girl who will do anything for God even unto death.  Go anywhere...available, and ready for battle because I know who my protector is.  I know EXACTLY who is directing my steps.
 I want to be an Esther of my day.  

Willing to give up comfort and my home.

A warrior God can use and send anywhere.  

I do not know what God has in store for me, but you better believe that I am going to trust Him NO MATTER WHAT.  I will hold on tight to my Savior and enjoy the ride serving Him.  "Man's chief end is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever!"

We were all made for a different purpose...different purposes leading to one same goal.  To be used by God and our lives sold out in abandon for Christ and His calling for each of us.  Not trying to be someone that we are not.  
Abandon our will to be who we think we should be, or have what we think we should have.  I love Charles Spurgeon's quote:

“When your will is God's will, you will have your will.”

Not comparing ourselves but rather seeking the Lord in His Word and HIS will for our lives.

Becoming Esthers...or Davids of today!!

 He is our guide and will always be there to point out the way, even WHEN we wander in the opposite direction, He will be there to help us get back on the right trail. 

"I am the good shepherd.  I know my sheep as the Father knows me.  My sheep know me as I know the Father.  So I give my life for my sheep.  I also have other sheep that are not from this fold.  I must lead them.  They too, will respond to my voice so they will be one flock with one shepherd."  

John 10:14-16 

Our lives should look different.  Scripture tells us that we will suffer.

We are Pilgrims, Strangers...Gypsies.

"Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from the carnal desires which war against your soul."  1 Peter 2:11

 I encourage you to be a modern day Esther with me...with us,  (Boys you can be a modern day David), and make our world a place where God is at the center of everything.  It may not be easy, then again that is not our promise, but if you confide in our Creator, He will always be there to sustain you and give you hope and a future. 

" For this reason Christ is the mediator of a new covenant, that those who are called may receive the promised eternal inheritance--now that he has died as a ransom to set them free from the sins committed under the first covenant."  Hebrews 9:15 

We have been made "FOR SUCH A TIME AS THIS!" Esther 4:14

God bless you as we journey together!!
Gypsies for Jesus!!

With love,
Rossie and Gabrielle